I've been learning a lot the last couple of months. And it seems impossible to me that I can even use that phrase, "the last couple of months" in reference to my time in Columbia. But I started my job at USC two months ago exactly, and in many ways, I feel exactly like I did when I first arrived.
My intention was for my next blog post to be about my job, to bore you with all of the mundane details of the job that I love so much. But instead of spending paragraphs trying to explain what it is that I am doing here, I'm going to briefly give you the highlights, and then tell you about, more importantly, what God is doing in my life.
First off, you can now find me on the Study Abroad
staff page, and "meet" the rest of the awesome people with whom I have the privilege of working. So aside from getting to know my lovely coworkers, I have learned the ways of the chaotic and never-a-dull-moment front desk, sat in on initial and follow-up advising appointments, participated in exchange student move-in and orientation, survived (and enjoyed!) my first study abroad fair, attended a scholarship workshop in Atlanta with Rachel and Sarah (my very first business trip!), interviewed peer advisors, and partaken in multiple meetings, included staff meetings, department meetings, and provider visits. All of this, though, is the "side dish" to my main task. Primarily, as "graduate intern," I am working closely with Jenn, the director, on a variety of assessment projects. Some of these are data-focused and will hopefully lead the way to more funding, while others are more research-based and lead to improvements in our office for our students. For example, I just finished putting together a comprehensive list of our most affordable program options in the 10 most popular study abroad destinations. Sounds easy, perhaps, but is definitely time consuming when you have upwards of 300 programs to review! I have learned
so much since I started working, and I still have much to learn. Every day brings a new set of challenges, which is part of what I love so much. But, nothing beats the staff and the students that I get to work with everyday. They are the constant reminder of why I am here, the reminder that I am in the right place and doing the right thing.
Which brings me to the next part of this post: what God is doing.
In March, while I was in Guatemala, I started reading Donald Miller's
Searching for God Knows What. I got through half of it before I became distracted by school and life. I picked it up again today, though, and would you believe that the very chapter where I left off is
about
exactly what the Lord has been trying to teach me, recently? Not only is it amazing that I didn't read this part earlier, because it would not have meant as much to me then, but it's also amazing that now, right now, is when I was prompted to read it.
You may remember my last post, in which I mentioned that transition has not been so easy this time around, and that I am struggling to find where I belong in this not-very-large city. Now, perhaps more than ever, I have been seeking validation from people, because I have this idea that having people like me will make me feel more at home here. I put myself in compromising positions because I am far more concerned with making friends, no matter who they are, and with having these friends validate me as an individual, than with taking the time to find people with whom I have much in common. And forget trying to find spiritually supportive friends; I have to find a church to find them, and finding a church is never an easy scavenger hunt.
And right in the middle of this struggle, God (and Don Miller) whacks me upside the head with this: "These wants we have, like wanting to be right, wanting to be good, wanting to be perceived as humble, wanting to be important to people, and wanting to be loved, feel perilous, as though by not getting them something terrible is going to happen...God wired us so that He
told us who we were, and outside that relationship, the relationship that said we were loved and valuable and beautiful, we didn't have any worth at all...As Paul said, if those relations are disturbed, the relations between God and man, then we feel the desire to be loved and respected by other people instead of God, and if we don't get that love and respect, we feel very sad or angry because we know that our glory is at stake, that if there isn't some glory being shone through us by somebody who has authority, we'll be dead inside, like a little light will go out and our souls will feel dark, like nothing can grow there. We'll feel that there is a penalty, by default, for being removed from love."
I don't know about you, but every time I read that I feel like I'm being sucker punched with a horribly fantastic reality. Because, the reality is that it's not the "being in a new place" or the "being away from my closest friends" that is making me frustrated and making me long for companionship, acceptance, and validation. It's my distance from God, my separation from him because of sin, and my failure to wholly, fully, and completely trust in
His love. Because it is only in His love that I will ever feel fulfilled, no matter where I am and no matter who I know. "What if the way the Trinity operates explains the way humans are wired, and that we will be fulfilled when we are finally with God and,
in His companionship, we know who we are? What if when we are with God, we feel that we have glory, we feel His love for us and know, in a way infinitely more satisfying than a parent's love or a lover's love, that we matter?"
This is my lesson for the day: it doesn't matter where I am, who I know, how new my surroundings are, or how comfortable my life is; I will always look for validation from my peers if I am not fully satisfied in the God of the universe who loves me infinitely. I can try to excuse my desire for worldly acceptance by saying that I am in a new place and trying to make friends, but I will only be denying the real reason for my loneliness, which is that I am not trusting in the loving arms of Christ.
I am reminded of my neighbor's art camp I photographed this summer, a job which gave me the privilege of leading a small group of fifth graders in Bible study every morning. We were discussing holiness one day, and what exactly that means and looks like. We all agreed that Jesus is holy, but how in the world are
we supposed to be holy? Scripture tells us that we must seek holiness, so I encouraged the girls to wake up every morning with this prayer: "Jesus, make me holy." I have found myself wanting to ask this, and sometimes even saying the words aloud, but not fully committing to the request in my heart. And yet, this only makes me want to pray this more, because it is my unholiness that prevents me from being able to ask the Holy of Holies for his attributes.
I am full of earth; You are heaven's worth.
I am stained with dirt, prone to depravity.
You are everything that is bright and clean,
The antonym of me; you are divinity.
But a certain sign of grace is this:
From the broken earth, flowers push up,
Pushing through the dirt. You are holy.
I want to be holy like You are.
Love,
lvp